Do you have any other choice?
Probably no one has shown you any other way than to Be Adaptive.
Being Adaptive is a survival strategy for women in a patriarchy, where you are the property of men and should do what the man wants when he wants it in every detail. Just forget having dignity with what you want.
Being Adaptive is a survival strategy, especially for men in a patriarchal hierarchy, where the more convincingly you act like a psychopath, the more the higher-up psychopaths
Each moment you are Being Adaptive, each adaptive action you take, further confines you to the prison of survival behaviors. Life beyond the prison? What is life? Why was I born? What else is there besides Being Adaptive?
Don't ask those questions. They bring you to the edge of modern culture. Then you might see there is something else.
Being Adaptive is not a pretty sight, regardless of how closely you match the Instagram images.
Yes, there is something other than Being Adaptive.
But you won't be able to shift out of Being unconsciously Adaptive until you can Be Adaptive consciously.
Let the Experiments begin!
Experimenting reveals what you have been up to, and what you have been missing.
At that point you might start feeling